Sad Friday Night...

Started out like any other Friday night.
Cash Cab at 6-7pm on Discovery Channel, I love the host. Go check it out.
Thought I might be a little smarter than the questions on Cash Cab so I switched over to Jeopardy, but there has been quite a bit of noise in the hallway. I assumed it was just the wind going through the vents making noise. At 7:30 though I could hear people out in front of the door. I check the peep hole and there is Anthony, the cute concierge, and what looks like police and EMT. Now I know I was fine so I was curious and I took to listening at the door. Yes it is ghetto but I wanted to know what was up.

So it sounded as if something was up with my neighbor, Timothy. That is how he introduced himself to me last year when I moved in and I never knew his last name. I guess I never will.

Seems Timothy died sometime this week and as an elderly gentleman he didn't have much family coming around. One son and he was a widower. Very sad I do have to say but the commotion went on clear until about 11pm. I guess they had to clear the scene, take reports, pictures and such, just in case it wasn't natural.

What surprised me was the amount of time it took them to take the body out. Seems they didn't do that until about 10:30 or so. And it wasn't like I was still at the door but the foulest order came through the door when this happened.

Very sad. He was a sweet man. Very Donald O'Connor type looking, nice, happy guy.

Have to really hand it to Anthony though, you could see he was upset by the death of a tenant but also he had to be there the whole time the police and EMT were there doing everything. Plus after they left about 45 minutes later I heard noise again and there was Anthony mopping up inside the apartment. I assume he was doing it to keep the 32nd Floor from holding the smell of death but also to keep his family, once they come around, from having to be hit with the ordor upon arrival.

When I left this morning he wasn't at the front, I didn't think he would be. He did indeed have a hard night.

When did we stop looking for more?

When did we stop looking for more?

Have you seen something like this before?

But here is a little about me and what I look for.

This is one of the hardest parts for me. But lets see what I can put together to give you an idea about who I am.
A born Sag. I would say I had a regular childhood if not a little on the spoiled end. Grew up on the beach in LA but when I was able I ran away to the other big, bad city of NYC and that is where I have remained for the past 11 years.
I work in the business/personal management end of the entertainment field. I like my job but I am really looking for something that is more rewarding to me.
I do tend to take most of my free time playing/coaching volleyball, hanging with my friends, shopping, watching TV, reading, I love to walk around and just take stupid pictures in New York. I will never use them and hardly ever keep them but it is a nice outlet and good way to see parts of the city I wouldn’t notice.
There is just too much about a person to sit here and write about. Even the longest descriptions don’t tell you what you really need to know; though they are usually the most helpful to see if you can match.

What am I looking for? I am looking for someone like me and someone who is in no way like me.
Like me:

Funny - I hope I am
Smart - I think I am
Comfortable in your own skin
Friendly
Fun
Athletic or at least someone who cares about their body, non-fanatic
Emotional, but low on drama
Trusting, it was lacking but I am working on that

There is more but if you can say you have the majority of the above then see how you match up with the next part.

You would have:
Your own friends
Your own interests
Interests in what I do and vice versa
Basically your own life but willing to take the time to include me in it.
Even a life together doesn’t mean you are together all the time.

Again, a big order, but I trust that it is out there for me….no matter where I have to go to get it.

Of course you have and if you are wondering, yes, that is on one of my profiles and I don't think there is anything wrong with it.

But as I was talking to a friend, Sunday after the snow storm, it would seem that this is really not what people are looking for.

I have profiles on just about any gay site that you can find. Yes, I started out with Gay.com and Planetout.com back when that was all there was. After that came Love@AOL, when I was on AOL. Next there was Gaydar, Yahoo Personals, Manhunt, Nerve, Hot or Not (a mistake) and a plethora of others.

Now if you sit and look at those listings they are offering different things and my profiles do read differently on each one. The written piece above plays to my seriously hoping to find a relationship via the web on things like Yahoo and actual dating sites.

What we ended up discussing was how people don't' read anymore. We also found that it doesn't matter what you are looking for; people do not necessarily use a site the way it was intended or hoped to be. Do you expect to get a hook up via Yahoo or Match.com (one that I am actually not on)? I wouldn't and I don't look for that on there. But I do get plenty of messages asking for that.

But I do hold out hope that someone from Manhunt or something like that would be something more than a hot body.

Basically I am down to wondering if the internet will be anything more than a hook up world and just give up on finding real people. But then again, who am I kidding. I will hold out the hope that there are real people out there looking for the same thing as me and who understand what it can or can not be. I want more. And I will find it.

Has anyone out there given up hope that they can find more than the hook up?

Mid Feb Flow - Long Time Coming.

What has been going on? Going out with friends, two new volleyball season, Super Bowl, I might even have some links and some new pictures of various things to share with ya'll.

Things I have been up to or noticing:

Super Bowl Sunday: Hung out with Gian, Jimmi and Jr and somehow found my way into a new group, A good, funny, touchy group of guys who I have been hanging with and they just keep me cracking up. Big ups to Dave, Bruce, Ron and Pauly.

Snow Storm: Saturday night out with the new group of guys at Gym late into the night as we watched the snow fall. We ended up talking to this behemoth of a guy who funny enough ends up living down the block from me. Nice guy who was planning on walking to Time Square in the snow because it was his first snow fall here in NYC. Called him Sunday after he got back from Central Park. Said he was a big old wet mess. 6'4, 256lbs of muscle and a big old wet mess. He said his pants and shoes were frozen to his legs.

Since the storm: Okay, so we know I have a problem with people who do not know how to navigate the sidewalks and it can only be worse when the sidewalk is reduced by half. A little path of sidewalk and women with strollers who assume they have the right of way is not a good match for me. They come full speed at you and yesterday I could have sworn one would have run me over if I didn't step to the side. I promise you this, next time I will let her hit me and fall dead away on top of the carriage and make sure everyone sees it.

Valentines Day: Well, you got a post from me yesterday for the day but ended up going to Inagiku for sushi and sashimi with Michael. Been dying to take me there for weeks and finally I said yes. And yes, the food is amazing, best sushi I have had since I left LA. And they can throw together a great Soy Flan for dessert. Thanks for a great dinner.

Today: Carriages still in the way but one finally got what she was asking for by not paying attention. Not sure if she was the mother or the nanny (there as so many damn nannies on the friggin UES) but I was on one side of the street and three carriages were on the other corner. The light changes and two begin to move in a line, that is fine, the third is still for a moment. Then all the sudden who ever the woman was just jams on the gas with her stroller and jams it right off the corner into a hole and flips the stroller over to within about 4-5 inches of the babies head hitting the ground. Good thing she had a hold of that handle. You would think I would get off on seeing someone learn her lesson but this would have been a really sad event, but the thing was not many people stopped. She was upset and other mothers kind of just looked, said are you okay and then kept going. Oh well.

Okay, time to get my ass going. I have volleyball twice tonight. Play and then head downtown to coach. God, I need an advil. Damn toothache.

So I didn't post this after I wrote all that above, but since then I have had volleyball three times, twice playing (6-0) for the week and since I was late for coaching due to the fact I was playing that team was (0-3), so not my fault. Haha.

Later all.

Pink – Stupid Girls.

I love Pink. She is back, I am sure you have seen it on MTV or VH1. Back with another scathing video going after the reality type celebrities/personalities like Lindsey, Paris, Jessica, Britney(again) and such.
Video makes me laugh and she is still as tough as ever. Plus now she has a really cute husband. Kick ass , Pink.

Happy Valentines Day to All.

But since I am not one to just express love to one person on this day, I think that should be done all year long, I will give love to those who mean the most to me in my life.

I love...... Pablo, Michael, Cale, Mark, Dave, Mark, Robert, Rich, Gian, Ted, Chris, Nick, Eddie, Jorge, Tom, My Family, Jim, Billy, Mama, Big Jim(Big Daddy), Bruce, Ron, Pauly, Stephen, Mark, Lorenzo, Greg, David, David, Tony, Andreas, Lew, Kara, Kearney, Chris, Chris, Rick, Eric, Fernando, Dean, Justin, Sal, Charly. And believe it or not, Schawn.

If I left you off it doesn't mean anything I just put the names that came to mind instantly. You know I love you all. If I did leave you off, leave a comment and I will be sure to either add you or comment on your comment.

What's Going On People?

If you read this stop and let me know what is going on in your life. Doesn't matter if I know you or not. GIve me some insight to who reads this.

There should be a pretty big Flow coming in a day or two.

Thanks.
Chris